Why I quietly delete people on social media, and why you should too.

I have a confession to make. Over the past 3 months I have been engaging in secret behaviour. I have been deleting people from my social media on an almost daily basis. You wouldn’t have seen a status about it, and we probably wouldn’t have spoken about it, but it’s been happening. It’s not that I don’t respect the people I am deleting, or dislike them. It’s not even that they’ve done something wrong. I’m just not interested in the conflict that comes with removing someone that I was potentially close friends with who is no longer on the same path as I am.

Over time I saw that I was increasingly on a different journey to some people who were once daily hello’s and weekly text messages and I made the decision to remove these people in a non violent manner from my life journey. Now that’s not to say that one day they may re-enter, but at the moment, our journey’s are different and for whatever reason it may be, our life goals, behaviours and attitudes no longer align.

Instead of “hiding” someone on my social media when I saw their status’s bring me down, I unfriended, unfollowed and disconnected. I didn’t say anything to these people, and I’d happily reply to a text message, but the material they were posting online had an adverse negative affect on my feelings and I often found myself questioning why these people were having such a negative time, or why they felt that they needed to project those negative feelings onto others involved in similar situations whom chose to take a positive approach instead.

I don’t wish these people unwell. I wish them the best on their journey, and maybe one day we will cross paths again, but for the moment, we are on different journey’s and I don’t believe that staying in touch with each others travels would be positive for them, or for me.

As the Dalai Lama said “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

So instead of posting “I’m going on a cull, bye haters” or creating a cyber drama around removing people who are not having a positive affect on your life, I encourage you to do as I do, and quietly delete those people whilst wishing them well. Wishing hate on them won’t help you. Or them.

- Ka x