Hello world! We had a getaway last week to Narrows Retreat and we took a few snaps which I'll share soon, but I thought I might post something a little bit more relevant to life. The reason we went away is because It's REALLY important to sometimes disconnect from the distractions (hello iPhone, iPad, Macbook Pro) and reconnect with the person who understands you through all of the weaving wires that are our day to day lives. Sometimes, you'll learn or try something new (rabbit, chess and how to build a fire), but mostly you'll get to relearn why you are with the person who makes every day a new chance, a new experience and most importantly, a reason to smile.
We've really dropped off the radar the past month (or two, it's so easy to loose track of time). Being apart was a really large wake up call for myself and Ja and we radically started evaluating our lives as individuals and as a couple.
The first thing on Ja's list as soon as he arrived home was to pop a ring on my finger and my first plan of action was to say yes (and yes, then I cried). It is difficult to put into words how I feel about Ja, but I hope that everyone gets to experience what I feel every single day that I wake up with him (near and or far). We are and always have been, open and honest, because before we are lovers, we are best friends. It sounds lame and really cliched but when you meet the right person, you just know. You don't "fall into it" a few years in or fall out of it when it suits, you are undeniably attached to another human in a manner that you cannot fathom and that words will never do justice to. We often forget that we are individual people, and this means we occasionally do things without thinking each other might feel differently, I am very guilty of this.
Ja and I moved for years along the same journey, we were it seem, just moments apart in venues, at concerts, at places of employment for many years in our late teens and early twenties. Our paths never collided, just coexisted whilst we grew and experienced similar things. We both exited long term relationships at the same time and entered the same phase of self growth before we finally met. We didn't force ourselves into the relationship and our trust and friendship evolved at a rate which frightened and excited us both.
I never would have believed that there was this insanely passionate love of epic proportions waiting for me in another human and in me waiting to love them back. I find myself growing quicker with Ja than I could have ever on my own, and for that I am eternally grateful.
There is not a morning that I have ever wished I was not with Ja, or for things to be different. Our life is perfect because we are perfect (and sometimes imperfect) together! I found myself often wanting to shake people when they wished us congratulations on the engagement, because I wanted to wish something for them. THIS. I hope that everyone who reads this goes and finds their own epic love story and embraces the passion that comes with being yourself and doing what you want, no matter what others say, because there is another being somewhere on this globe doing exactly the same as you and wishing to meet you.
You know that epic love story? You are already living yours. - Ka xx
ps. The photo above is a mural located in Philadelphia by NY artist Stephen Powers. Part of a series of murals called "Love Letter" and you can see more of them here.